Some will feel relief whereas others may find they experience thoughts and emotions they did not anticipate. The impact of abortion is unique to each person and is influenced by their personal story. At First Place Options we recognize that some will experience abortion as a childbearing loss, a grief issue, a stressor, or for some a traumatic event.
You may feel grief, sadness, confusion, or perhaps something else that is difficult: if you do, you are not alone. At First Place Options, we understand the complexity and unique response to abortion whether within days, weeks, months, or even years after an abortion. We use a grief lens to help you explore and process the various elements of grief that you may be experiencing. Grief can be defined as “the conflicting group of human emotions caused by an end to or change in a familiar pattern of behaviour.” (John W. James & Russell Friedman, The Grief Recovery Handbook) .” The change may take place in a relationship with a person, a place, an event, or perhaps the way you think about yourself. Grief is a process rather than an emotion.
If you have any need to seek support following an abortion, we are here to help. We offer free post-abortion counselling. There is no right or wrong way to experience post-abortion grief. Your feelings are real, and it’s important to give yourself permission to have them.
How do I know if Post Abortion Counselling is for me?
If you are struggling after your abortion(s), we want you to know that you are not alone. Some women feel it is helpful to talk about their experience but find it difficult to find a safe place to do so.
For that reason, First Place Options offers an eight-week, one-on-one, After Abortion Support program. It does not matter how recent, or how long ago your abortion(s) occurred. We will help you process and work through your difficult thoughts and feelings by talking, asking questions, and giving you tools to use in your journey to move forward. Healing is possible, and you are worth it.
All support is offered free of charge, is confidential, and can be in-person or virtual.
Please contact us if you would like to book an appointment to speak with a counselor to discuss After Abortion Support.
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If your partner had an abortion, it is possible that you may experience a wide range of feelings as a result of the experience. It is not uncommon for you, as the partner, to feel grief, sadness, confusion, or perhaps something else that is difficult. At First Place Options, we want you to know that you matter and are not alone.
Whether it was a joint decision or not, and whether you were for or against the abortion or simply trying to be neutral about the decision at the time, we care about what you are going through. We understand that even reaching out for support can be a challenge. We provide a safe place for you to explore your feelings in a confidential, non-judgemental, and supportive space. Reach out to learn more about our one-on-one After Abortion Support for partners of women who have had an abortion.
All support is offered at no charge and is available virtually or in person.
BOOK NOWWe offer one-on-one After Abortion Support. Everyone’s circumstances leading up to an abortion, their abortion story and their experience afterwards can be very different. We find that one-on-one support allows each of our clients to process their abortion experience and story at their own pace.
At times we have done an intake session with a couple together. Our intake sessions allow clients to meet with a counsellor and find out more about the After Abortion Support that we offer. These appointments also allow the counsellor the opportunity to get to know a little bit about the client, so that we know how best to support them. After a joint intake session, we usually recommend that the couple continue their After Abortion Support on a one-on-one basis with different counsellors. The reason for this is because partners tend to process their abortion experience at very different rates. Continuing individually allows each partner the valuable time they need to work through their thoughts and feelings at their own pace. Couples can then come together on their own time to share with each other how they are doing and what they are working through.
It is not uncommon for our client’s to have had more than one abortion. We usually recommend that a client begin by processing the abortion that is currently affecting them the most. And throughout our support, client’s will have the space to share their experience and feelings regarding all of their abortions that they are emotionally struggling with.